If someone that you know has been sexually assaulted, is experiencing dating/domestic violence or is being stalked, reassure them of the following:

You believe what they have told you. This person may be disclosing the traumatic event for the first time or may have already attempted to disclose to others, who may not have believed them. Either way, know that your response makes a huge difference in being supportive.

You know it is not their fault. They may feel guilty for what happened to them and will often blame themselves. It may be helpful to remind them that they are not at fault for what happened to them and that no one deserves to be assaulted, abused or stalked.

You are thankful that they told you. Disclosing to someone about a traumatic event is never easy. They may be embarrassed or ashamed to even speak about the event. It may be a good idea to acknowledge the strength and courage that it took for this individual to share this with you.

You are sorry that this happened. No one deserves to be sexually assaulted, abused or stalked. Showing empathy while someone is disclosing to you may help them to feel at ease in sharing their needs and feelings.

You will do your best to help them. It is helpful if you know your resources and ways to connect the victim/survivor to these resources.

Refer them to the Campus Advocate or Title IX Coordinator for additional assistance.

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